Jill Fecko – October 7, 2006


My name is Jill Fecko and I have been coming to St. Catherine’s now for a little over a year.  I moved with my husband Chris and my daughter, Madalyn to Ithaca 2 years ago for Chris to do some post-doctoral work in the applied physics department at Cornell.  I am a stay at home mom with Maddie and with Logan, who is 1 and a half.  When we came to St. Catherine’s, Chris and I were both excited to get to know other young families and to become involved in the parish.  Obviously I am a member of the choir, and I am also involved with the MOMS small faith group and volunteer at the clothing drop off shed. 

I was asked to speak this afternoon about stewardship and what it means to me. I don’t tend to use the word stewardship in my daily life and in thinking about it; I found it very difficult to come up with a concrete definition.  I think stewardship involves helping others, leading others to Christ, and giving what you have to give.  I have to admit, however, that when I was asked to speak about stewardship in relation to my involvement with the choir, I had to rack my brain.  I have never thought about singing as service. 

To me, the easiest way to pray is through song, which naturally leads me to be a part of the choir.  I was first recruited to my hometown church choir when I was quite young.  There was a tenor in that choir that thought I had talent and asked me to be a part of it.  That tenor, who also happens to be my dad, taught me that if you have a gift that you can use in a positive way, you should.  And so I have been in church choirs ever since I can remember.  Not only am I able to pray in a beautiful way, I have since realized that singing in the choir and being a cantor is a wonderful way to invite others to join me.

The choir at St. Catherine’s is, in many ways, very similar to other churches where I have sung.  One thing you can always find in a church choir is variety.  Some members are skilled musicians, some merely love to sing.  Some members love the old traditional hymns, others love more contemporary songs.  Some love to dance while we sing, others would rather not.  Some are young, some are young at heart.  The members of both adult choirs are a varied group with a common purpose. It was striking to me when I started here, that singing the praise of God seemed the most important thing.  This might seem obvious to some of you, but I have definitely sung in church choirs that had other agendas.  This choir is not a performing group.  It is a group of parishioners who want to pray together.  The prayer is sung instead of spoken, but it is still a prayer. 

For me, singing is a hobby, something that I love to do.  I have a hard time sitting in a regular pew at a Catholic mass if I am not in the choir.  When I first joined the choir here, I was immediately made to feel welcome by Jim and all the other singers and musicians.  There is a great sense of community and I was welcomed from the first day.   Even though I have only been singing here for slightly over a year, I feel a real connection to the other singers and have made some great friends and gained so much.  This has been a really wonderful way to meet other members of the community and to share in making beautiful music. We’ll just call it a side effect that I get Thursday night out and don’t have to spend my time at church negotiating with two toddlers and their snacks.

Although I have sung in many different kinds of choirs, I always find myself most at home in a church environment and particularly in this one.  My place in the choir enables me to take a really active part in the mass.  It gives me a deep sense of purpose when I walk into church on Saturday afternoon or Sunday morning.   In thinking about this, I came up with a new, more accurate definition of stewardship.  I would now say that stewardship is “Serving God and my neighbors while having a really wonderful time”. 

If singing in the choir or playing an instrument is a way that you would like to take a more active role in the mass, there will be choir members at each exit as you leave.  Feel free to sign up or ask us questions!